Grandma ripped for not assisting her daughter-in-law and only “having fun” with the baby


A grandmother who chose to “have fun” with her newborn grandson rather than helping her daughter-in-law has come under fire online.

A person using the alias u/AndrewRichard11 shared his story on the contentious r/AmITheA**hole forum on Reddit in an effort to get feedback from the “AITA” community. The popular post has 2,000 comments and more than 6,000 upvotes.

The Redditor introduced his post by stating that he and his wife just had a boy. He asked his mother to come over to help out with household chores and spend time getting to know her grandchild because his wife had been overworked.

He said, “The thing is my wife acts oddly whenever she sees my mom with our son. She would make faces at her, speak to her in a condescending manner, and even raise her voice at her, which made my mother feel offended. My wife responded that it was because of what my mother was doing when I asked her about it. She complained that her mother held the baby for too long and that it took a long time for her to get the baby back. Mom argued that my wife could ask politely rather than yelling, but my wife defended herself by saying that she only raises her voice after asking her mother repeatedly and getting no response.

“Mom started crying as they began to argue. At that point, I became enraged, grabbed my wife by the arm, and warned her to stop acting out or we would stop receiving support from my mother if she continued. She countered that I was wrong to see it as ‘acting out,’ saying that she was just trying to feed our son.

The original poster (OP) explained to his wife that his mother behaves in ways that call for patience from them but suggested that they “keep the peace” during their “difficult time.” His wife called him selfish and claimed that he doesn’t have to deal with the situation as she does.

When it’s time for the baby to be fed, according to his wife, he should be the one to fetch their son from his mother because he “condones” her actions.

u/AndrewRichard11 has been contacted by Newsweek for comment.

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Redditor reactions

You are an a**hole. It’s pretty obvious that you’re allowing your MIL to treat your wife badly, and by insisting that she control her reaction, you’re only making matters worse. Get your mother under control, apologize profusely to your wife, and start actively helping out with your son and household. Yesterday,” u/suffragette_citizen wrote, earning over 12,000 upvotes for the best comment.

“Exactly. The grandmother is not at all assisting. She’s being a selfish a**hole and just having fun with the baby, banannejo replied.

You’re the a**hole, U/CoffeeWithDreams89 said. Additionally, it doesn’t help if your mother is holding the child. If she’s cooking or doing the dishes, she’s helping so your wife can take care of the baby.

You are an a**hole. Your mother comes across as an intrusive annoyance. Your wife shouldn’t have to request the baby more than once. Put your mother in her proper place and defend and stand by your wife, said u/Standard-Park.

You are an a**hole. Holding the baby is not “helping out,” which is why your mom came over. Even though I don’t have children, I’ve heard repeatedly that the best way to support a new mother is to take care of all the household chores that need to be done so that she can focus on her child. It’s okay for your wife to be and act stressed because the baby is only five weeks old. And it should go without saying that a mother should receive her newborn child back if she requests it, according to user u/EvangelineRain.


Micheal Kurt

I earned a bachelor's degree in exercise and sport science from Oregon State University. He is an avid sports lover who enjoys tennis, football, and a variety of other activities. He is from Tucson, Arizona, and is a huge Cardinals supporter.

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